🌼 IT IS A LOT LIKE PLANTING A NEW GARDEN 🌼

I absolutely love gardens, I love the idea of gardens, I love how it feels to sit near a garden. Yet, gardening is not one of my favorite things to do.

You see, I’m not one for the most patient people, so I don’t enjoy how long it takes before you can lavish in its beauty. Now, I know some/most people are more patient than I am but humor me, this is going somewhere:

So gardening…
⏰ It seems like HOURS of digging deep in the dirt to get all the rocks and crap out. 
🚜Then, adding the compost and tilling it all to enrich the soil.
🥵Sweating to death. 
😰Waking up sore the next day
⏰Getting back to work.
🥵Sweating to death. 
💰Spending a ton on all the new plants, planting them, watering them.
😖Maybe a few don’t fair the transition.
🌾Then GAH, the weeds start growing.  
💦Watering, weeding, watering, weeding, watering, weeding…
♾But FINALLY after what feels like an eternity….

🌸🌼🌷🌺THE GARDEN IS FLOURISHING AND IT IS ABSOLUTELY AMAZING! 🌺🌷🌼🌸

And what I have found is that my thoughts about gardening are a LOT of people’s unconscious thoughts about personal development. 

Let’s compare to self-development:

🚜Digging in the dirt gathering up the rocks: You getting really honest with yourself, uncovering the issues, getting clear on what is holding you back. IE. Beliefs, Mindset, Environment, Self-sabotage, etc.
Adding the compost: The healing, nourishing, rebuilding part of your process.
🥵Sweating: Yes, it is hard work to change your norm to challenge yourself and move outside of your comfort zone.
💰Buying the flowers: It can be a significant investment for a coach, program/s, books, etc.
😖The plants that don’t make it: Testing what works and what doesn’t. Failure is just feedback. It won’t all stick and that is okay.
💦Watering and weeding: Keeping up with the work, self-care, being diligent.  
🌾Weeds: Shit will come up, just like the weeds do and if you don’t deal with it, it will counteract all the work you have done.
💦Keep watering, expect you’ll have to weed again.  
😑It will take time to reap the rewards of the effort and sometimes it may not feel worth it.

🌸🌼🌷🌺 I PROMISE YOU IT IS WORTH IT. EVEN IF IT TAKES YEARS FOR YOU TO GET WHERE YOU HOPE TO BE, IT IS WORTH THE EFFORT 🌺🌷🌼🌸

Can you relate to my analogy at all? Totally cheesy 🧀 I know, but a lot of my clients say it helps keep them motivated so they don’t lose momentum when things may feel like they aren’t changing fast enough.

So, tell me, what phase are you in? 

Do you desire to be further along? Could you use some support and guidance?
This is what I do – I help people  💖

IF YOU COULD CHOOSE HOW YOU WOULD LIKE TO FEEL, ALL THE TIME, WOULD YOU CHOOSE HAPPINESS?

What if I told you there is something better?

A woman came to me a few months ago because she wasn’t happy, and she wanted to see how I could help. Her business was struggling, she lost connection with people who she cared about and she felt lost.  
A similar story that most of my clients share.

Often during an initial conversation, we explore the deep-down desires they have for life and often I hear, 

“I JUST WANT TO BE HAPPY.” 

It is as if I hear my own voice when it is said. I can feel the hurt. I can feel the despair. I can feel that if something doesn’t change, all hope of what life could become would be lost. I used to be her. 

I too used to send this “I just want to be happy.” wish to the universe ALL OF THE TIME… when I was sad, disappointed, frustrated, hurt, angry, feeling alone, confused and not enjoying life every moment. 

Something changed a while back and it has been a beautiful transformation. 

I’m not saying there was a day that I woke up and never said it again. But now it is rare, in fact, the only time it slips out is if my partner and I get into an argument and we can’t see eye to eye. We are practically opposites and our views of the world are as well. Sometimes it can be challenging. 

Plus, He is 6’3” and I’m only 5’3” 😜

Anyway, that wish of “being happy” changed for me when I realize something a while back...

BEING HAPPY ALL OF THE TIME CAN'T HAPPEN. 

Think about it, that would mean no matter what you would be happy. When someone you love is in an accident you would be happy, someone you care about gets sick and you'd still be happy. Or can you imagine if they pass on... Can you imagine not grieving that loss, not grieving because the universe granted your wish to be happy all the time? 

Aside from this being terribly uncomfortable, 
IT IS ALSO COMPLETELY IMPOSSIBLE!

As soon as I realized what is more important than being happy, I began sharing it with my clients and I love to sit back to witness the shifts as they embody the new idea as well. 

They soften, they are less hostile, more hopeful, their physiology changes and they approach life from a totally different angle.

I would love to share what created the shift for me and for my clients.... IF you are the kind of person who is willing to challenge yourself and be open to a new approach. Otherwise, it will be of no use.

WOULD YOU LIKE TO KNOW?
Message me so we can set up a time to chat. 

I could just tell you, but that would be like dropping off new Ikea furniture still in the box, with no Allen wrench or instructions.  🛠

I’d rather serve you better by discussing it relative to your life and personal situation. Then, we can determine how you will apply it to your life so you can experience the same enlightenment my clients and I have. 💖

WHO THE HELL AM I TO HELP PEOPLE?

I just had an awesome conversation with a fellow coach (and new friend). We planned this meeting to brainstorm and help each other where we feel stuck.

During the call, she brought something up, which I have heard before, but today it really resonated.

It was about how often we can feel inadequate and compare ourselves to others around them.

This is one of the most toxic downfalls for coaches and unfortunately happens ALL OF THE TIME.

It happens so much because we surround ourselves with other coaches, uplifting content for inspiration for our work, and we see happy faces, beach-bound bodies and ballin’ in Bali, we forget that what we are seeing is not the real world.

We forget that this social media view is of a perfectly curated world of bliss and abundance.

Even though we are experts at helping our clients navigate their challenge, let go of the past, build confidence, see their worth and ultimately help them to create a life beyond their expectations…

Some days, coaches forget that we are human. And we think there is something wrong with us to experience challenges, reminders of a painful event, self-doubt and even triggers too. 

And then we question whether we have the right to coach at all.

Then I decided to expand my view. I thought about how we ALL see perfect facebook posts, pictures painting a perfect life. Not just coaches.

We are ALL inundated with BFF selfies, vacation photos, the perfect date night, new haircut/lashes or super sassy snapshots.

So, it isn’t only coaches whose self-esteem can be put to the test, but everyone who is on Facebook, Instagram, watches tv, looks at magazines, watches movies, etc.

And today, to paraphrase my new friend, she talked about how “You only need to be a few steps ahead to help lead people to where you are.”

This is a common experience for coaches, especially when we are craving more.

So, then my view expands again, and I realize:

WE ARE ALL PRICELESS.
💖 EVERYONE, not just coaches.  
💖 We are ALL irreplaceable.  
💖 We ALL have gifts that no one else can offer to the world.

But sadly, not everyone feels confident enough to let themselves out of the “I’m not good enough” box they have put themselves in.

Is any of this stirring anything up inside?  
If so, let me invite you to consider something.

You got where you are by perseverance, working through your challenges and your pain.

And though at times, it may seem like everyone is ahead of you, there are people who are still where you were.

These people actually need you, your support, encouragement, and knowledge to help them get to their next level.

I strongly believe everyone who has a cheerleader, coach, mentor, teacher, support system and/or sounding board can achieve their potential faster and easier than those who do not.

The individuals who have this support learn to move through their day without criticizing themselves and comparing themselves to others. They do it confidently, quickly and comfortably.

🦋 Do you have anyone supporting you to get to your next level?
🦋 Have you figured out what your greatest gifts are and how to bring them to the world?
🦋 Do you have support to get over the challenges that you still haven’t gotten passed?
🦋 Would you like help with all of it?

💗 This is what I do 💗

And fortunately for you, I have made my way through more challenges than most people would have liked to. But the bright side to that is that I have tools and ideas for almost any situation!

☀️ I can help you let go of self-judgment.
☀️ I can help you quiet your inner critic. The one who says, “You aren’t good enough.”
☀️ I can help you see your value. 
☀️ I can help you navigate your way to a better version of you.

Message me so we can talk about how your life feels and what it could look like in 1 month, 3 months, 6 months to a year from now.