Someone very dear to me has said something pretty awful over the past few months:
"YOU ARE A LIFE COACH AND YOU CAN'T EVEN COACH YOURSELF!"
I know they didn't/don't actually mean it. I'm sure it is a reflection of their stuff that makes them subconsiously want me to question myself and not feel good enough.
I often rebutted with "Yeah, maybe I'm not, but I am damn good at helping my clients get where they want to be and that's what matters!"
I believe in what I could do for others, whole heartedly, and unfortunately I did question myself: Could I really be all that good if I wasn't experiencing the feelings I desired and I wasn't creating the life I deserved? How much more could I help people if I was in a better place and how can I expect them to take the risk to change if I was stuck in my own stuff?
For those of you who know me know, I LOVE inquiry and LOVE to challenge emotions and thoughts, so often tried to let this insult feel more like a challenge and not fully experience how hurtful the statement may have been intended to be. Especially, since it was coming from someone I care deeply for.
Well, for some reason, I heard their voice in my head today and as I started to let questions swirl around in my head, I quickly brought myself back to the present moment to investigate the facts and mistruths about this statement.
My awareness zoomed right back to where I was in that moment. Which was sitting by the pool after taking a swim, enjoying my mid day break, before teaching my third yoga class of the day.
So yeah, let's revisit that statement.
I CAN'T COACH MYSELF? 😂
Now, I invite you to think about this:
It is human nature to fear change or the unknown and most people do best when they get clear on their goals and desires, while someone is holding them accountable and supporting them as they move through their transformation.
I recently read this:
"Mentors help new people in a field grow into it, learn, and become experts themselves, and there is lots of research that supports this.”
John Crosby called mentoring “a brain to pick, an ear to listen, and a push in the right direction.”
Mentors see the strength and talent in you, listen to your hopes and dreams, and help you reach your full potential.
Good ones also tell you when your plans are totally unrealistic and you need a bit of a check to that ambition. In short, good mentors foster sustainable, healthy growth. So, we all need them, right? And we should go out and get them!
“I encourage all of you to seek out teachers and mentors that challenge you to think for yourself and guide you to find your own voice” — Renee Olsted
And this is a step by step of how someone can help support you to achieve your goals: https://bit.ly/33ur13W
And now I would like to offer you an option. If I am as vulnerable a human as the rest of you - with fear of change, fear of abandonment, fear of being alone and almost non existent boundaries and without having hired my own coach for this situation, I got where I am today (thanks to the tools of my trade/my training) …
Do you think it would be helpful to talk about how I can help support you so you can have a post like mine some day soon?
When would now be a good time to really start loving life and enjoying all that it has to offer?
November is just around the corner, which means I have two spots opening up for my Emotional Freedom Program. Click through to submit your application now: https://bit.ly/2osC1Qt
I'll start getting your poolside, lounge chair ready 😉