I saw a post from a therapist/coach I follow on social media where he talked about the history of your “Why” - the “why” to goals, business, the way we live, and choices we make.
This is often one of the first steps in goal setting - figuring out “why” you want to achieve certain things, in order to help you stay motivated or inspired to keep going even when the work gets tough.
Now, let’s think about the history of our “why”
When we are young our “why” for what we do is often to fit in, find our place, and or our people. Eg. Sports, activities, hobbies, interests, etc.
As we begin to mature, we see that we need to do things to begin to build our future. Eg. College, trade school, jobs, etc.
As we move into adulthood, our “why” is often more related to the experiences we desire. Eg. Where we want to live, what we like to have, our relationships /who we want to associate with.
And as we get older, often there is often an awareness that those things haven’t actually created the fulfillment that was intended. We realize that all of our efforts aren’t paying off as we hoped.
*Cue the Mid-life crisis!
This is why I like to offer the exploration of the deeper why...
In hopes to save the younger generation from needing two quit their job 25 years from now to finally do something they love or to help you along if you are coming to that awareness and you want more out of life.
Increasing your awareness of your “why” at its core can help every choice and action be more intentional, more informed.
A few simple questions that can be asked to help you get a little clearer about your why:
→ Is it really about the stuff you that want?
→ Is it really about the house or car or partner that you want?
→ Is it really about the job or the status?
I don’t believe your deep “why” has to do with any of those things…
It all comes down to the desired feelings.
But because it is about stuff so deep that it is at a subconscious level, sadly, many people spin their wheels for years.
And because hundreds/thousands of subconscious beliefs have been created about how you “should” be or how life “should” be influence us more than anything, it makes sense that it can be tricky to figure out.
The therapist/coach I mentioned said our attempts to find fulfillment are like putting all attention and effort into something only to find it leads you down a cul-de-sac.
I thought that was brilliant!
This idea felt aligned with my interest to increase awareness of the emotional craving that your “why” is intended to satiate so we can reach the destination we desire.
To get even grittier, my newest concept is about discovering the core wounds that yearn to be healed. THIS is my most recent discovery for self-awareness and goal achievement… I’ll talk about that in my next entry.
Anyway, over the past two decades, I found myself stuck at the end of so many cul-de-sacs chasing after goals and feeling unfulfilled but thankfully there have been many mentors’ and teachers.
There have been times when my mentors lessons made sense to my logical mind but they were too big for me to fully embody at that time, some blossom right away and some have been being nurtured for the past ten years and are just blossoming now.
My vision boards used to be full of pictures of Bali, Audi’s, and stacks of money.
My life doesn’t look exactly like that, YET, but also isn’t all that far off.
More importantly, it feels just as incredible as the vision boards - that is what really matters.
Also, it feel like the speed in which I am manifesting the life from my vision boards is increasing and it feels easier 😄
I share all of this to help inspire you to uncover your real, deep, core “why”.
And from all that I have learned I am able to help - I would love to explore this with you.
This is one of the most valuable gifts you can give to yourself, your family, loved ones, and the world as a whole.
The ripple effect is immeasurable 🌎