"I thought I had done all the healing work...."

During two of my Discovery Consultations ☎️ with potential new clients, this week, both women said almost the same thing. It was along the lines of:

‟I have done so much healing work. I have dealt with my stuff, but I’m thinking maybe I haven’t because I am still not okay. I keep attracting people and situations that don’t feel right.“

This is a really common concern I hear when speaking with individuals who are considering my type of coaching. This is because we don't just work on surface level stuff; we are digging deep – REALLY DEEP. 

Most women who call me, say they have invested hundreds of hours, thousands of $ and read dozens of 📚 for healing and it still doesn’t feel like they are where they thought they would be.

My new clients were expressing that they are frustrated. 😖

They felt like they have been spinning their wheels and their efforts have been pointless. I understand this frustration all too well.

You see, every obstacle you overcome, every level you reach is peeling away a layer – leaving something new raw and exposed. 

Often this feels confusing because you may feel like you are back where you started. You may be reacting the same, feelings are usually somewhat similar, the triggers, the emotions feel like something you have experienced before.. 

This may sound awful, and why would anyone want to do this?! 

But can I tell you – this is actually amazing! 

This is what I shared with these two women:

It is only with this new rawness that you are able to get to the NEXT level, to create and even stronger connection with self and through this become that much more centered, unshakeable and sure about yourself. 

I find that it is usually these vulnerable stages that ramp up our day-dreams of what life “should” look like. 

These vulnerable stages also help us determine the feelings or situations we want to move further away from - which can inspire change, increase determination and courage. 

New “pain” provides a reason to be introspective and evolve even more. 

Do you agree, there is always another level? 

I do and that because we are human, unless or until you reach enlightenment there will probably be some suffering in most if not all of them. 

You can make use of the suffering though.  
🦋 Allow it to give you purpose.
🦋 Allow it to make you more compassionate.  
🦋 Allow it to help you be more generous and understanding.

It is providing you the opportunity to get clearer;
🔎 Clearer stronger boundaries
🔎 A Clearer, bigger why and 
🔎 Clearer, stronger desires to keep you motivated and moving forward.

Allow this new level help you evolve.

As you grow and you experience these new vulnerable feelings - explore them. As if you can hold them in your hand and inspect every little detail.

Don’t be scared, the discomfort will go away soon enough, and it will be replaced with even more Wisdom and Confidence.

Move toward your next level of healing and when you are ready, I encourage you to get support. Find a coach or close friend to help you see the details from all different angles and perspectives. I’m always here if you would like to talk.

It can be so helpful to get an “emotional tour guide” who can help you travel deeper into yourself and your thoughts. Their objective perspective may help you discover hidden treasures about yourself that you either forgot existed or never had a chance to know before.

And here is some more great news:

Eventually, when a new level is exposed, what was once pain now just feels like a tap on the shoulder to get your attention so you can take a better look at what will best serve your highest-self.